Ok, just a reminder here... I'm not judging, I'm just saying. With that clear, I am not a size king. In fact, I'm a bit thrown off by some of the things that people fit into each other. I do get why size matters. It can matter both psychologically and physically - as one girlfriend of mine once said "
If it didn't matter, they would sell tiny dildos too."
And that's pretty tough to try to reason against.
However, there is a point where physically - especially for someone new to it all, anything more than two fingers takes work.
But if one thing is for sure - not everyone is all that new to it all.
I don't know if its the way my tubes bend, but I really haven't found any need to achieve any goals with sizing. But I know that there's a definite appeal for many players in the world of kinkdom for working up to a goal. Perhaps there's an addictive aspect to it for some, perhaps there is a level of feeling dominated by others - the Dominant says "
And you will train yourself to accept this!" And then the sub gets out there and
practices and
practices and
practices some more. Maybe wearing a
plug around regularly, perhaps a
locking one. Steadily getting larger with a
speculum, until whatever it is finally fits.
Even if that whatever turns out to be a fire extinguisher. Yes, a fire extinguisher.
Not the full size ones - though I don't put it past the world of kinkdom... but the kitchen sized ones. I have a mental image from my days working for Nugget magazine of a submitted photo that we couldn't use that showed two guys bent over a couch, each with an extinguisher shoved half way up, while their proud master looking at the camera with a maniacal smile. Yah, that's one of those images that there's no mind bleach for.
The thing about it for me is why go that far? Sure, we all can talk about the elasticity of the muscles, but after a certain point I think you just have to stretch things too far. In the world of hard porn it seems like there's always another level of taking it to extremes. It was anal, then facials, then DP, then bukkake, then choking, then putting a foot on someone's head to hold them down while fucking, then ass to mouth, then gaping assholes, and now - I see prolapse fetish.Yah. Seriously. Don't believe me?
Google it.
And prolapsed just can't be healthy. *shrug*
Seriously...
what's next?
I know that fisting is a big deal for lots of folks. But what about double fisting? What about triple? Yah, seriously. A friend of mine in the scene sold his dining table after he threw a wild party and witnessed a triple fisting on it. Yup - no unsee for that. My wife talks about going to one of the FF extreme parties with two of her self-professed "size queen" gay friends of hers. At the party, the entertainer for the night was a woman who "
had to weigh 100 lbs" stuffing all kinds of things inside of her ass. They stood there in shock until the two queens just couldn't take it anymore.
Now, size stuff certainly isn't limited to anal play - but seriously, where does it go to? Is it ultimately just some wacky experiment without any limit? At what point does a size ftishist say - "Ok, that's the sweet spot." Physically, the "P-spot" (
Prostate) is only a few inches in, and probably 99% of people can get at it easily with your fingers. So what really does going elbow deep do? At what point are you moving a person's innards around
dangerously? Sometimes I wonder
just what a the goal? Is it just about making sure its
definitely painful? Is it a demonstration of
power? Actually... "control" will be another Strap-on style subject.
Anyway, do what you want to do. Have fun with it. If there's anything the internet shows me its that there's always going to be someone out there who can go one inch deeper, or wider, or both. And its a very real sub-fetish for people into strap-on play.
And interestingly enough, just like with every kink and sub-kink, there seem to be areas where the fetish is stronger than others. For whatever reason, the Eastern Bloc nations seems to really favor size for their FemDom strapon play. Though, they don't seem to have a lot of lube over there (at least they never seem to include that in the filming.) So if you want some of that action, checkout either
Strapon-Hell.com (
pic) or
Strapontryouts.com (
pic)- then again, if you're opposed to seeing naked men, you can go with
Hugestraponlesbians.com (
pic). Sure seems like there's website for every sub fetish for everything these days on the internet. How far off can it be until we can sign up for the site hugestraponredheadedpregnantlesbians.com?
Now, it's not just guys. There are a few lifestyle female Dommes out there that I know, who make it very clear that strap-on
size a big part, even a critical part, of the kink for them. And they have the
lifesized horse cock to strap-on and give you the experience that they they want; and perhaps, what you have been looking for too. I guess you just have to make sure that you're willing to undergo the
training required.
Whatever you do, be sure to take a deep breath and relax - this
might pinch a bit!
Thanks for helping me to help you! And to those of you who celebrate Easter, 
