Strapon Styles : Overview

Aarkeybabble : Please respect the Domina's limits, and she'll respect yours.For a while now I've wanted to do some write ups about different styles of play. And one that has a lot of variety to it is strap-on play. Strap-on play isn't for everyone. Many pro-dommes don't do it. For a slew of reasons: legal ones, cleanliness ones, and intimacy are the biggest three.

Whatever the reasons, it's important to respect that.

Aarkeybabble : She looks like she would be gentle, doesn't she? Well... maybe not...Even in a pro setting, no means no. I've seen so many selfish "subs" out there try to pressure a pro into doing something, or maligning her because she wasn't into their kink. FYI guys, it hurts the community as a whole when you do stuff like that. It hurts your chance of more women seeing being a pro as an interesting option, and by that, it reduces your chances of getting what ya want.

So stop being morons about it. If she says no, then respect that.

You wouldn't want her bringing some strange smelly sweaty guy in to beat you senseless because it's her kink, would you? Well, ok... maybe some of you are into that, ya never know... either way, just respect others.

Ok, with that whole rant/lecture out of the way, the goal of this series is to explore a bit of what some people think of just a one way street. There's a lot to it.Aarkeybabble : Not all strapons work quite the same way.Even the term for it can be written many ways that I've seen it - and the meaning can vary a bunch depending on who you ask.

Aarkeybabble : When it happened I didn't like it. But now, I kinda like that I didn't like it.I've seen it listed as strapon, strap-on, S/O - as something as simple sounding as the terms "dildo training" or "anal training" can mean wildly different limits and expectations. So if you're not clear, talk about it. Ask. Learn.

I learned the hard way personally that one Domme I played with considered dildo training to not include anal penetration at all, only oral. Not a lot of fun at the time. In fact, I was pretty bothered by the miscommunication, but I learned from it.

I promise you, not all women with a strap-on will be seeking or offering the same kind of experience. Aarkeybabble : Every strapon experience is uniqueNope. Not the same at all.

More to come ;)

A little bit about Perv Privacy

I'm not going to go into details about it technically, but in short... by default, Google tracks everything you search for. And there's nothing sexy about Google tracking ya... a group of sadistic women armed with tazers and wearing uniforms however, well that's some hot shit!

Anyway, under the pretense of making it easier to find things that you want, Google is tweaking the way your searches happen. There are a few downsides about a person's privacy though, and I have chosen to disable it on my computers.Aarkeybabble : There's nothing about Google tracking ya.If you want to learn how to do it yourself, click here: http://www.digitaljournal.com/article/320137

DD #50 - Of Corsets Underneath

There's lots to like about this maid uniform, but what I like most is the understated but well fitting corset.Aarkeybabble : There's lots to like about this maid uniform, but what I like most is the understated but well fitting corset.The maid is very pretty, I always love the sneak peek at stocking tops and garters... and those are some VERY serious 6" heels. There is no luxury of a platform for this girl, how strict! But the one thing that really caught my eye are the corset lines under the maid uniform. There is something just sooooo fun about suspecting that and incredibly hot about proving there is a corset underneath.

Anyway, hope you have a great weekend, ya wacky pervs ;)

Mostly OT: The Braids

I don't know if it's true or not, and I know that probably 95% of men would claim they are too, but I have actually been told by a few lesbians that I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body. Of course, even dolled up, I'm very butch, even when I'm in a skirt. I'm told that my style is "mani-fem" - but those of you who are long time readers know that kind of stuff about me already.

And while not all lesbians are into the same music, really... most kinda are. And when I heard this song, I got inspired to go on a babble.

And yes, they three women fully identify as lesbians, not bi-sexuals. I'm not sure why it is that I got the special inclusion into the girls only club, but I'm happy to have had it. And after having had 3 relationships with women who identify and are currently back in long-term lesbian relationships, there's definitely a trend.

I found out that two of them referred to me as "The Manbian" - which was weird for me at first, but over time I got more and more ok with it. Not unlike the way that Mistress Saskia broke me of my hangups about being called a sissy. And FWIW, one of them wields a very VERY serious strapon! She liked to go and go and go and go and go... รต.o

Anyway, that song totally made me think of them. Its lyrics fit a lot of those experiences to a T - and as the Braids are a newer band - this song is off their debut album "Native Speaker," I figured I'd spread the good word a bit - hope you audiophiles pick it up!


Wiki: link |☼| Official: braidsmusic |☼| Buy: Native Speaker



Canadian Fashions?

Today's update on the LISA corset site had a really hot shot of a model tightly laced in a corset, and stockings and yummmmy... in a Canadian Fashion show.Aarkeybabble : Canadian fashion is seriously unpredictableThere was a link to the Flickr page where it was found, and I figured... hey, lets see more!

And well, there was one other totally fetish worthy shot - but other than that its all like parkas and mom wear. WTF is up with Canadian fashion?!? I guess they just wanted to slip in a little hot number or two for the moms on the prowl!

Maybe there's just something going on with all the British Commonwealth of Nations, checkout this Aussie chap!

Daily Distraction #49 - LiLo

It is sometimes hard to believe that she's only 25, with so many ups and downs, we all know that Ms Lohan has had a tough road. I really hope she's able to pull it together, because I have to admit, she really pushes my buttons.Aarkeybabble : Makeup, corset, airbrush... wait a sec...I think it's really about the eyes. There's a depth beyond her years. I do love her style, her lips, her figure, and the nearly incessant smoking. I really wonder if she's got a cigarette sponsorship. No, seriously, I've have heard that tobacco companies give out free promotional cigarettes to some celebrities.Aarkeybabble : The girl definitely takes unnecessary risks...And her voice is delicious, but then again, that's the smoking too ;)Aarkeybabble : I'd swim a moat with alligators to light Lindsay's cigaretteBut mostly the eyes. Yeah, I think I'm going to stick with that.

I have a what now?

Him: So you could get off?
Her: Oh, yeah.
Cute ;)

BTW, this is evidently a scene in the movie: Young People Fucking

Daily Distraction #48 - Tumblr

Aarkeybabble : Shannon Doherty - looking delicious dangling a cigarette!I have a real love/hate thing with Tumblr. In one sense, it's about as pure and straight forward about what it is as anything can be - and I respect that.

On the other hand, it's about as impersonal and objectifying of humans and emotions as anything can be, and that's something I don't appreciate. But when a blog fan sent me a link this morning to my-smoking-hot.tumblr.com - I just had to take a look ;)

Mostly because I know that for most of my youth, I viewed women as objects. I worked and work to this day, to over come that - and its very common of men. Some men who live an "unexamined life" seem to be wholly oblivious to the dehumanizing behavior. Which is one of those things that furthers the "men are pigs" and "men only think with their penis" kind of beliefs.Aarkeybabble : All those animated gifs I'm posting are from tumblr btwAnd some men are pigs, and some men only think with their penis. And in spite of loathing that perception - and (some women are pigs too btw,) I do have a few tumblr pages book marked.

Aarkeybabble : I'm not sure if Shulepova is the name of the model or the photo - but I do love this picture. The lips on that girl... yum!Because the fact is simple - visual imagery is exciting. Even though the hundreds and hundreds of images that I can devour over the course or surf through the pages of tumblr can be entirely numbing... there's a happy mindless drooling zombie affect that goes with it.

And as long as I can still turn off that guilty center of my brain, I'm sure I'll peek in on the tumblr world from time to time.

Anyway, if you have a day free... here are my bookmarked Tumblr sites, in alphabetical order:Aarkeybabble : Oh that's so delightfully cruel. I'm jealous!
About Love and Control
Bend Over Boyfriend
Chaste Male
Dominant Women
Edgier Vanilla
Fuck Yeah Chastity
Girl on Boy
Locked 4 Her
Love Girls with Strap-ons
My Smoking Hot
Prostate Milking and Massage
She knows what is best for me
Sissy Likes
Strapon Images
Strap-On Queen
Transvestite Training
Sweet Nathaliet TV

Daily Distraction #47 - Anime APB

Ok, time for another APB. Can anyone ID the artist responsible for this picture? I've seen many similar ones, but none that I've ever was sure were by the same person.

And like the entry from last month, its got those pixels. Those oh so critical to keep us innocent and pure pixels. Though like so much Japanese transvestite stuff, the male looks every bit as feminine as the females - and this fellow has some pretty nice boobs if ya ask me! Ahhhh, ya gotta love Japan! :)Aarkeybabble : Anime transvestite boys sure look like passable naughty girls, don't they?Anyway, if someone knows who this is, I am very curious.

And don't ask me why, but one of my earliest fantasies was being forced to go to an all girl school, where I got caught, and then of course, dominated. I've always had a fascination for that sub-genre.