She said, Suck My D*CK!

The first woman I ever heard say that was back in 1993. The woman was my future ex-sister in-law, and all 5'0" and 95# of her meant it. She staring down a guy who was being lippy, and it shut him up fast.

Til the giggling started.

Oh, I do miss her sometimes.

I've heard more and more women use that expression over the years, and as I promised this entry in a slow to publish series, its time for me to discuss the act of strap-sucking.

Now, I'm not experienced at it. And frankly, its not my thing. I've done it once, a lovely Mistress, Xia Vox - who is now retired, insisted. It was a very interesting session and experience overall, and I'm grateful for it. I do wish I had not been so pressed time wise during that trip, and I have long regretted running off so soon after the session ended.

The thing is you see, Ms. Vox was very into gender play. And after a few exchanges in e-mail about interests, and the more I read about her, and I'll be honest... after seeing her pictures, I just *had* to session with her. And though she didn't usually session with men she didn't know before, my sincerity (and I think a nice note on my behalf from another Mistress she knew) got me in the door to see her. One thing though, she made it clear that she was going to make me suck her strap-on. It was something I had never done, and she was pretty rough about it. Not nearly as rough as some of the videos I've seen, and she wasn't shoving some massive dildo down my throat, but I definitely felt it. And I think it was the first time I ever felt sore in the back of my mouth in my life - aside from a good cold that is.

At the time, I didn't enjoy it. In hindsight, as part of the scene, and because she made it clear from the start that this was going to happen... and it did. I can appreciate the meaning. I felt humbled and a bit humiliated by the act, and I definitely felt dominated during it. And for me, feeling dominated is an important part of the scene - and one of the toughest things to capture sometimes in a Pro-Dom setting. But having her grab the back of my head, while looking so incredibly hot and forcing me on her that way. Well, it definitely worked for making me feel dominated.

So, in the realm of fantasy, I do get it. There's a place for it, and I appreciate why people enjoy it. The old kinky story, where the Mistress says, "You better slobber on it good, that's the lube you get!" Well, I hope that's just the stuff of fantasy. I suspect if things are already pre-lubed back there and prepared, well maybe, but geez... I donno, maybe I'm a lube junkie. Either way, I can't fathom a bit of spit being enough. Oy! Seriously, this is a tender area!

And just like most other kinks, the style means a lot. Strap-on "oral worship" is probably a very different thing than having a Mistress shove a strap-on down your throat to make you gag on it.

Lastly, there is obviously a whole gender play aspect that is pretty common for some strap-on suckers. I know I've read more than a few remarks about how much the lipstick smeared on the strap-on holds an appeal, on both sides.

But ultimately, strap-on sucking a perfect example of using our biggest sexual organ in kinky play, and by that, I mean the mind. No one is physically receiving any stimulation from the act, its purely psychological - though I guess that depends if it's feeldoe, then maybe it's different, but generally, this is about the role, the mindset, the control... the act of domination and submission.

PS. An anonymous reader disagreed with my opinion that it was purely a mental stimulation thing. He sent a note that I'll paraphrase:

"Typically, when deep throating, its important to get past the point where you are able to suppress your gag reflex. Thus, it is a necessary and significant milestone in the art of "deep throating." The massaging of the back of the throat by the artificial appendage can be incredibly erotic and stimulating.

When the receiver is on its knees this involves forcing the dildo to take a rather sharp downward angle. This angle and the movement of the appendage as it moves in and out of the the receiver's throat (which is necessary for breathing) can also be very stimulating for the dildo wearer."

Thanks for the info!