Good habits

If there's one thing I've found in my years, habits - both good or bad, are something I find easier to maintain than to break.

In the last few months as a part of my contract with my wife and my Mistress, Lady Regina, I have to spend 8 hours each week wearing either a corset or high heels. I can wear either, or both - but for the first couple of months I almost wore the heels exclusively.

Wearing a corset after so many years off, where I've gained enough weight that I don't fit into most of the old ones I used to wear, it just gets discouraging. However, in the last couple of months I've started lacing again more. A friend of my wife's who you might remember my mentioning her in a couple blog entries from last year, and I have become "lacing buddies" and we're encouraging each other. She's a bit luckier than I am in that she lives where it's cold enough that it's not uncomfortable to wear another layer of clothes around during the day. Plus, she's a girl, so she can pull it off under her work clothes. She hides the fact (I kinda wish she didn't, at least to other young attractive women...) but definitely gets more attention and compliments, usually "Nice dress!" or You look great, is your hair different?"" kind of remarks.

I suspect that she really likes the sneaking around adds a bit of fun from the mysterious and hidden naughty thing ;)

She of course looks a whole lot better laced up than I do, as I'm sure you can judge from these pictures. Yet, even just a couple hours a week after a few months in the corset again, I'm amazed with how much more comfortable it feels wearing a corset for a few hours than it did before. Ahhh... Good habits... *squeeze*

Feb 14th

First off, happy Valentines Day, or Singles Awkwardness Day, or post Mistress Day - depending on what and how you celebrate things ;)

Ack! I thought Mistress day was the day after today! Ooops.

Anyway, when it comes to V-day, I actually loathe this holiday. Always have. It's the marketing of Hallmark and the "prove you love me" day. I never seemed to get it right, and though I've had a few really lovely ones, for the most part, it's a fail. It's definitely my least favorite holiday. Seriously.

Maybe I'm not as much of a romantic as I think I am, either way... this day shall pass. ;)

In other news, I want to just clarify stuff a bit about my life & relationship(s) presently. I guess I need to doubly do it, since I poopoo'd about the day of love.Now, I received a few e-mails about my post last week regarding my little vent/meltdown thing. And actually, once the dust settled, it a plus for my relationship dynamics.

One of the toughest and trickiest things for me (especially when I'm focusing on my subby side) is when my hopes and/or expectations are not being met. I've learned to be 100x more patient than I was 20 years ago; but what man's sexuality doesn't slow down a bit from 20 to 40? Yet that doesn't mean I don't have periods where I feel disappointed. And it's very tough, since I know... absolutely know... just how lucky I am. And yet, the feelings are there. Hurt, disappointment, even neglected. Often times it's just a breakdown in communication, othertimes it's simply real life interfering. Finding a balance in it all is tough. And its extra tough for me becuase I still hear a voice in my own head that negates what I'm feeling. I hear over and over "YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY/PATIENT/GRATEFUL!" And that just riddles me with guilt and angst and I feel like some Emo teen all over again.


Sometimes, I wonder if I'm just a PITA (Pain In The Ass,) ya know... the kinda guy who's just annoying? Like the guy who is off camera in this little XXX clip.

So, last week when I had my mini-melt down, it phased me a little. I like to think I'm beyond that, but obviously it can still happen. The good news is that after a week off of it, all's good. I got a little spanking Saturday from Mistress after helping her out a bit around her house. She gave it to me "just to assert that she has control and because it's good to keep a boy reminded of his place." And that is just all good by me. ;)

Yesterday, my love and I went to the dungeon and I got to play switch and be the dom one. It was a bit being all "dom" while still locked in my chastity belt, but I have found that the hardest part of the belt now is physical. Psychologically it's something I've learned to deal with - though I usually only go a week, and at most, two.

Either way, my life is good. Not just because of all the things I have in my life, but because I try really hard to keep persepective on it.Sometimes I have to remind myself sometimes that even the other side of the coin has another side of the coin!

Daily Distraction #40 - Latex

Normally I'm not a big latex guy. And to be clear, I don't mean to say I'm not a fan, oh... I get it, but I'm not *big* on it like some folks. The smell of it doesn't really do much for me.

But this picture was posted the other day at the corset site: staylace.com, and it's just sooo delicious that I had to share it here. Aside from the woman being just beautiful with that whole porcelain doll thing going on in spades, but I just love the outfit. Sure, she's got a lovely figure in that corset, but the color is so unique, and there are even latex ankle socks! Hotttt!

So, here's the pic. And if you don't get how hot it is, ya can't say I didn't try to show ya. Thanks to Mr. Peter Leth, the original contrib who sent it to the LISA folks. ;)

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On an additional note, sorry I haven't posted much lately. In addition to being very busy with vanilla work (and yes, always better too busy than not busy enough) I had a bit of a personal kink meltdown and just needed a break. So my loving wife and Lady Regina were kind enough to give me the space of a week and I stayed out of chastity and heels and corsets and I really feel refreshed by it. I guess after 100 days of abiding the contract I just needed to stretch my wings a bit. And I'm grateful for both ladies for allowing that - and forgiving me my little tantrum way of expressing my need.

But I didn't really want to post, and I definitely don't want to come here and whine about what are really very high class problems.

I don't want to turn this into a YouTube blog...

But I have to share this, and I'm not sure how to say the other things I'm going to say. So yup, two just video links in a row on the blog. *shrug*

This video is 13 mins long. It's got kink and fetish scattered throughout, and it all makes no sense, but it's very stylish. A bit like a Donny Darko dream sequence IMO.