Sorry if you find this disappointing, or perhaps even offensive - but I am extremely private about my kinks. So private, that I almost never cross my kink friends with my work/life ones.
It sucks to have to compartmentalize people like that - but since I do web & print design work for a living, my reputation has been something that I've had to build two separate identities for.
That's the unfortunate reality of the prejudices against people with alternative sexuality. As a result, this past week when a Domme resurfaced (after being MIA for a few years) and e-mailed me, and asked if I was on FaceBook or MySpace, I said that although we were pretty good friends at one time, I suggested contacting me on FetLife instead.
See, my privacy is just that important. I don't show my face online in the kinky world (well actually I have allowed my face photographed - but only if I'm wearing a wig and makeup) - and I won't show my wife's either. The rest of it is fair game, and for those of you with the ability and courage to do it, I salute you.
But I'm not willing to go there. And it's not at all personal.
I just find that the internet is not so anonymous - and my anonymity is more important to me than it is to some corporation. So all you Twitter folks, while this definitely doesn't affect someone who's account is SuperSub101. However, I do think that precedents are important - and some are very important. Read here about the British High Court's decision regarding Twitter - and how Twitter has responded: inventorspot.com article.
Considering this past summer we had the slanderous Skank Blogger outed by Google (yes, the very blog software that I use and that you are reading...) I think it's all a sign of where things are headed.
Either way, I'm willing to go only so far with it all. I'm sure you understand, we all have some kind of limits. Well, except for maybe those of you who simply don't... (WTF WARNING ON THAT LINK)