It sucks to have to compartmentalize people like that - but since I do web & print design work for a living, my reputation has been something that I've had to build two separate identities for.
That's the unfortunate reality of the prejudices against people with alternative sexuality. As a result, this past week when a Domme resurfaced (after being MIA for a few years) and e-mailed me, and asked if I was on FaceBook or MySpace, I said that although we were pretty good friends at one time, I suggested contacting me on FetLife instead.
See, my privacy is just that important. I don't show my face online in the kinky world (well actually I have allowed my face photographed - but only if I'm wearing a wig and makeup) - and I won't show my wife's either. The rest of it is fair game, and for those of you with the ability and courage to do it, I salute you.
But I'm not willing to go there. And it's not at all personal.
I just find that the internet is not so anonymous - and my anonymity is more important to me than it is to some corporation. So all you Twitter folks, while this definitely doesn't affect someone who's account is SuperSub101. However, I do think that precedents are important - and some are very important. Read here about the British High Court's decision regarding Twitter - and how Twitter has responded: inventorspot.com article.
Considering this past summer we had the slanderous Skank Blogger outed by Google (yes, the very blog software that I use and that you are reading...) I think it's all a sign of where things are headed.
Either way, I'm willing to go only so far with it all. I'm sure you understand, we all have some kind of limits. Well, except for maybe those of you who simply don't... (WTF WARNING ON THAT LINK)
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Dude, WTF was that?
As another person who has multiple internet personalities, I can appreciate the desire to keep them separate. I only have a handful of friends who travel between worlds, and although that number is growing, it's interesting to note that the travel is always one-way; i.e., my kink friends know my vanilla Facebook, etc., IDs, but not the other way 'round.
BTW, that woman in the red vinyl is pretty effin' hot. And what the hell are you wearing? That chemise is totally wrong for your shape.
I think most of us are that way, though I support and applaud those who live "out" - I'm just not ready, willing or able (or maybe all 3) to go there.
And the lady is red is "Lady Kendra James" - kendrajames.com
I had the honor of escorting her to the 2005 Black & Blue Ball in NYC. And the theme that year was the 20s, and that was a flapper costume, not just a chemise - but yah... that straight neckline looked awkward for sure ;)
WTF indeed. My eyes!
Totally feel ya on the keeping things separate, as you know. Sometimes it makes me crazy, most times I'm glad for it. It does get a little challenging when there are, say, scene folks you've become more than scene buddies with and figuring out how much to let them into your personal life. In the reverse, I'm just as cautious about giving my vanilla friends my domme name or exposing them to various elements of that side of my life.
At the end of the day, though, like Shaq said: "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." (http://twitter.com/THE_REAL_SHAQ/status/3794639628)
Miss Troy, thanks for the post! And WTF indeed. Talk about needing mind bleach!
Shaq's quote is definitely a good one. :)
I also have several on-line personnas, and sometimes it is tought to keep them separate.
Sheen, I hear ya. I really do. I got a real wake up back in 99 when I googled for the name I'd been using full time online, and found it almost exclusively tied to smoking fetish stuff. I was using it for work at that point, and separating the two identities became critical (and a real pain for a while.)
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