Ruining Orgasms - Part II

Punishment Orgasms. Another two words that just don't seem to naturally go together. But they can. The promise of punishment is definitely another way to take the joy out of an orgasm.

I think it was a couple years ago when I saw a video clip (I think it was one of her "brutal hand jobs" series) from the Barefoot Princess. She's a lifestyle domme (though some doubt the veracity - I don't) who incorporates FemDom in her marriage. In the particular video her husband was being released from a month in chastity, and she had him bound on a bench and was masturbating him after a bit of punishment. Well, he's on the board bucking, as he can't talk through his gag, while she manipulates his man hood. As he gets closer, she starts to reduce the contact more and more, really dragging it out, and when she's reduced it to just the tip of her finger touching him, he can't hold back and starts to come. And as soon as he does she starts punching his balls brutally (which seems to be something she really likes to do to him) and harshly reprimands him for not asking permission - of course he's gagged, so it's not like he could. But holy shit... wow. I mean, I love and hate, and want and don't want that all at the same time. Woah. Anyway, definitely a punishment orgasm.

In general the whole "wait for it or else**" experience is punishing, assuming that the or else is genuinely sufficient to make the orgasm something you don't want. In the real chastity lifestyle it is not uncommon for an orgasm to result in an extension of future chastity time. Mistress is unlocking you for her pleasure, serve her well and she'll allow you an orgasm in just two more days... because no matter what, she's going to re-lock you after she's done using you. But if you orgasm during sex, well then, you won't get re-released for 7 days... or 10 days... or 30 years. Whatever gives you enough time to really think about your disobedience.

What is an extra kick in the ass is the fact that the concept of being used as a sex toy so matter-of-fact is really hot, and as a result - it is a HUGE turn on and makes not orgasming all the tougher.

*sigh*
Their reality makes for lovely stuff of fantasy for me! Of course the use of numbing creams and extended pleasure condoms can really help. If you only use the cream, be sure to put a condom on the man so it doesn't affect the woman. And give it a minute or two to really start working. After a period of lockup, some of us can reach an orgasm before it even starts numbing - things get really really sensitive down there ya know.

Of course there is also just the purely traditional kind of beat down that can happen after orgasm. I promise you, after you've already cum the intensity of a real corporal scene is dramatically increased.

** I've re-hosted that particular "wait for it" gif three times at ImageShack but they keep losing it. I don't know if it violates their terms or something, but I figured I'd upload it to Messyshare. If you find it gone again, please let me know.

Ruining Orgasms - Part I

I was going to call this entry ruined orgasms, but as I wrote more I realized I really want to discuss more than just that. And to clarify, the discussion will not be about prostate milking/massage - since I consider that more of an orgasm denial than a ruining thing.

It's not that ruined orgasms are not a totally awesome topic in and of itself. Personally I just think that just the expression is great enough to discuss when you stop to think about it. To put it simply, those are two words that normally just do *not* get filed together in my mind. Ruined. Orgasm. When I first heard of it, I thought it was just such a crazy idea - almost impossible for me to grasp. But such a thing definitely does exist. And it's really a unique experience. What was extra funny about it, is that I'd actually experienced this years ago with one of my more devious girlfriends.

But before I get into "remember whens" let me explain a bit about the sensations. First, if you haven't ever had one, and you are curious (and have enough self control) you can experience it by yourself. Just at the very moment you begin to have an orgasm, stop all contact. Completely abandon touching yourself. It's the opposite side of the coin to an overstimulated style of orgasm. You know, when after you cum, how extremely sensitive it all gets... and yet she continues to and maybe even with greater intensity - rub things. And you start to buck against the restraints, and flail about, and whimper through your gag and then well... ummm... where was I?

Oh yes, the ruined orgasm. Anyway, the type I just described is called "abandonment" - and I strongly feel that it is one of the only two safe types of ruined orgasms. The other is very similar, and it's a minimalist one. Jill from robandjill.com specializes in that. Often at the actual moment of orgasm for Rob, the only contact she has is extremely limited. Sometimes it is just the tip of a finger gently and slowly rubbing his shaft - that's it. Nothing more. But it requires some serious practice, and I suspect a serious amount of edging too. For those of you who don't know edging, that's bringing someone to the edge of orgasm, slowing down to not cum, but not stopping completely. It's like an extra risque type of tease & denial. You really have to know your partner's responses in order to edge them, and some folks claim that they can really drag it out. Some sub guys who are in lifestyle chastity claim they can edge for "hours" though that would require more discipline than I can fathom, and I personally suspect that minutes feel like hours. At least that's how it feels for me the couple times when we've done anything like edge play.

Now, those two types are abandonment and minimalist. I've read one dominatrix / porn stars website that details a dozen other styles. All 12 are about stopping or preventing the ejaculate from coming out. And I vividly remember Dr. Drew from the old MTV days talk in an almost panic about the risks of stopping ejaculation from leaving the body. In addition to possibly causing a retrograde ejaculation - which is when semen floods back into the bladder. And as bad as that might sound, it was the idea of rupturing the tubing down there or hurting the prostate which were Dr. Drew's two big concerns. Either way, watching his dramatic response was enough for me. So, if you want to play that way please be careful about it.

Now, remember when I mentioned I'd experienced ruined orgasms in the past? The first relationship I had with a truly dominant & kinky g/f who incorporated this type of orgasm in our playing. She introduced me to the custom of pinching off the tip of my cock at orgasm to prevent "the mess" (as she referred to it.) Personally I found it made for a more intense orgasm, and obviously less mess. However when I found out that it can damage the internal plumbing (and there were times that I felt almost herniated after an orgasm like that) I immediately discontinued the practice. As Dr. Drew said, things that are designed to leave the body, really should leave the body. The idea of causing myself permanent damage because of something like that just didn't seem at all worth the risk. And really if you want to truly ruin an orgasm, it fails at the designed task. Oh, it changes the sensations, but it doesn't ruin it at all. No the way that abandonment or minimalist does. And what pouty little bratty sub deserves a "different" orgasm, when you can teach a lesson to them with a ruined one anyway?

As an aside, that g/f was also the first woman to introduced me to tease & denial. I can recall one particular evening when she bound my arms above my head, then ran the rope under the couch and tied it to the front leg. While sitting there watching a movie she would unzip my fly and give me head for a few minutes getting me totally throbbing, then abandon it. Get up and make popcorn, smoke a cigarette, whatever... when I'd go limp again, she would either tease me back up again or zip my pants closed. She kept that up for a little over an hour until I got so frustrated that I got angry and blew up about it. At the time what I claimed irked me most was that she hadn't discussed any of it before doing it to me. *Le Sigh* Can you say selfish and immature? I thought you could. In my defense, a 22 year old's drive for orgasm is a pretty intense thing.

Anywho, as to abandonment style ruined orgasms, it's brutal. A bit like having a terrible itch that you aren't allowed to scratch. It can be used as a genuine lifestyle punishment, that is something I promise you. Especially when incorporated with the kind of extended denial that chastity play can include. My next entry though will be about more specific "punishment" orgasms. You know, like when Jill tells Rob that she wants only a single drop of cum to get out, and then he misbehaves. What's a domme to do?

The Giving of Thanks

Thanks to all of my loved ones - from the most intimate support and confidence of my love, and my family - to the friends who stand by my side through life's ups and downs, and help me grow - in spirit and mind. Thanks to the acquaintances, who keep my life informed and entertaining. Thanks to all the readers - without you, this blog would not have continued.

I hope you have a joy filled day tomorrow.

I'm naughty

For those of you who had been accessing this blog from somewhere, or somehow, which was impacted by my adding an adult content warning, I'm sorry about that. I just felt I could no longer deny the fact that this is an adult blog, with adult content, and sometimes adult nudity.

I can't go on with trying to deny that this isn't like some TV show where everything is toned down, especially like those Spanish channel type shows where things of extreme not nudity, nor sexually enticing, nor of a provocative nature... Mui Caliente!!!

Technically it is a good thing to have adult nudity. Because if there was some other kind of nudity, well that's just be weird.

Like stuffed animal nudity, that some really f*cking weird stuff.

Two of those *IT* things

Ok, most of you guys wanted more wankable stuff, so here's an entry about two of my biggest *IT* things

*IT* #1 - Smoking During Sex

Jennifer Love Hewitt in the painfully bad and straight to video release of "Confessions of a Sociopathic Social Climber" is a terrible fake smoker. But I don't care. The thing is she just always seemed totally cute to me - and in this film she plays a total "bitch princess" - which is kinda hot fantasy stuff (crappy reality though) - and there's a scene where she smokes during sex - and that's just *IT* for me. Though personally I prefer the woman riding, and not looking quite so bored, I suspect the looking bored is exactly someone else's *IT* - probably a cuckold fan.

Any ways, if you want to see some pictures, here's a 3MB zip file with about 50 shots in it.

*IT* #2 - Smoking During Sadism

Ms. Sasha Grey is an up and coming young porn / S&M starlet. Normally I ignore porn starlets. So often they look absurdly factory built. Install fake huge boobs, veneers, blond the hair, etc. Boooooooooring.

But not Sasha, she caught my eye the first time I saw her. She's pretty, and pretty young too - young enough that I feel like a dirty old man just looking (but hey, that was certain to happen at some point if I was lucky to live long enough). However the thing about Sasha is there's an intensity and depth in her eyes. And I'm a sucker for good eyes. At least I'm seeing it there. She doesn't have that vacuous "no body is home" look to her. When she's in a scene, she really is in there, and that's hot. So many porn starlets just look so bored in porn. And another big plus - she's a genuine perv. My first intro to her was a strapon video someone sent me a link to where she and another girl take it to some huge dude, and aside from the spitting, and she sure likes to spit (which is not my thing) it was clear that she was having fun driving.

Recently someone posted a smoking video of her that is from the devicebondage.com web site. Holy hot Batman! She's also in a corset (though I'd have voted for a bit tighter...) and her nails are perfectly manicured in black. The subby woman is all bound up tight and gagged and well. Sasha smokes while she's tormenting this woman. Yes, there is a bit of the blowing in face thing (which isn't a turn off or on for me) and a bit of ashtray play - but it's done with the gag, which didn't turn me off like it normally does. But most of all, the smoking just seems to be a natural part of the scene. Especially when Sasha breaks out the anal hook and insists on putting it inside the sub. She still smokes, she holds the cigarette, it's just there. It isn't the end all of the scene, it's played off that Sasha is smoking simply because she wants to. And gawd, I love that. I love when a woman smokes because she wants to.

Most smoking in fetish films are so overly focused on the smoking that it gets totally unnatural. Women sticking cigarettes into their pussy, gah... that's just awkward. It's not my idea of hot at all. Heck, it's beyond awkward, it's absurd. Just let em smoke. Smoke while they're doing something... playing pool, chatting with friends, putting on makeup, or even just slowly but steadily sliding a metal anal hook into a totally hot bound, and gagged submissive.

Hrm, I think I need to see that video again ;)

If you don't want to bother with the video, here are 46 high res screen grabs in a 2.66MB zip file at sharebee.

BTW, just to finish the rant I started about smoking in porn or fetish films - generally I find it to be very tedious. They're either completely off the mark about the fetish, or frustratingly over the top. The off the mark ones might hit other people's kinks, but I just like to see a woman smoking. If she's doing any of the following it's a turning me off: putting the cigarette in her vagina or anus, licking it like it's a penis, not really inhaling (clearly not a real smoker) or if she's just clearly uncomfortable. Yeah, I know Freud thought smoking was sexy because of his phallic obsession, and maybe for some - and probably more of the cigar fetish folks - but it's not oral for me. Heck, there are no "banana eating" fetish groups that I know of and no "ice cream / lollipop licking" groups either!

As to the over the top stuff, they have the woman smoking so fierce and fast that it is entirely unnatural. They "hot box" the cigarette, the ash burns off so fast that they lose track of it - and for an OCD clean person, watching the long ash just fall on someone is... gah... it's frickin sloppy! The over practiced exhales - you can almost hear the guy off camera saying "no, you have to do it like this!" Meh. Just let them smoke, ok? It isn't like they don't know how to. Just let it be a natural extension of her. Every smoker has her own dance, her own style, her own brand, her own little way for every little part of the ceremony - lighting up, taking a drag, holding, exhaling, ashing, even putting it out. Just let her do her thing. She probably already knows how to - and it's going to be hotter than trying to force her to smoke the "one true and right perfect" way that you think is hot. There are a million subtleties to smoking style, let us see hers please.

Just call me Captain...

Click here to take the "Which Star Trek character am I?" quiz...

Your results: James T. Kirk (Captain)
And for those of you who are "TNG" fans, there is no captain like Kirk. He completely kicks ass, women can't resist him, and I hear that he is quite well equipped.


They also released a new preview trailer for the upcoming movie this week, and though it starts out a little cheezy, but then... well... wow. Total geek heaven. I'm ready :)

Apple - Trailers - Star Trek

What's extra hilarious is that my geek friends got into a heated discussion about the fact that Kirk is driving a stick shift in the preview, but he couldn't drive in the Gangster episode from the TV series, and that they're building the ship on the ground, but they aren't supposed to be atmosphere worthy. :)

Geeks are silly. Oh, and btw... Star Trek "The Next Generation" or "Voyager" whatever... they're for wusses. Red shirts survive? WTF tree huggy new age crap is that??? The purity of the red shirt is critical to understanding the nature of life as cruel and unfair or something like that. I mean... wow. We're talking about critical life lessons here!

Sometimes... Bloggin' is hard... Mmmm'kay?

**Please picture something meaningful in this space**

How's that for ya? There's a few ways to go about blogging. There's the journal style - which tends to oscillate between a "News of my day to day" or the deeper "Behind the scenes" view into your emotional psyche. Though I didn't envision my blog to be that way. Frankly I don't think my day to day is all that exciting, and I'm far too reserved about sharing the nooks and crannies of my brain to the world. Perhaps its that I don't want to show my own "dark passenger".

The other kind of blog seems to be a more of an educational variety. But who the hell am I to be all "here's what you need to do" - ya know? Sure, they call me a chastity expert on one board, but I hardly wear the belt for any real duration compared to other guys out there. I'd say that over the last few years I've worn it for 5% of my life - so while I might know a lot about it, I have not actually experienced a lot.

I put a good bit of time into corsetting and I did really lace myself down for quite a while, but I've spent a lot more time in my belt than I have in a corset over the last few years. Heck, I can't even fit into all my corsets anymore. *gasp* I thought it was 15lbs that I put on when I quit smoking, but it's not - I'm still lighter than I was in some of the earliest corset pictures. It's that I shortened the corset strings on the biggest corset's laces (because they used to absurdly lap around my waist 4 times...) - plus the fact that I'm so out of practice that my body is no longer used to the shaping at all!

Meh!

Anyways... that's where I'm at. Sometimes the whole Bloggin' thing is just hard. I'd wager that 90% of the blogs I've visited have died off, a post or two a month at most - or are stone dead within a few months after starting, if they even make it that long.

On the other side, I don't want to just be an attention whore about it either. I refused to sell out my way of looking at the world to join the Sugasm thing. And I don't want to just post up picture after picture of "please wank here" material - though I think we can all agree that a bit of really sexy hot OMG look at her art is required. I also refuse to be a chronic malcontent or the mad ranter. None of those are things that I wanted it to be about either. Heck, it isn't about traffic, or readers, or even really responses - though I do really appreciate the feedback when I get it - and strangely I get as many e-mails comments as I do on the blog. When I get really down to it, I'm not sure what I wanted it to be about. I do know that a part of the goal was to stop spending so much time on BDSM boards, and it has helped with that. But I do miss my friends. I had expected that a few friends who's blogs I read regularly would stop in here and read my board, even if just occasionally. And with one real exception, they haven't. And I'm not sure why... but it is what it is. Either way, not spending time on the boards is getting easier. I seem to have developed a pair of cyber stalkers on one board, and a very large # of folks have left that site in the last few months for a myriad of reasons. Partly because of a change in the scene in NY, but mostly because the place has gotten so hostile. It's sad, but I've built up enough friends and I spend enough time chit chatting as it is already...

*shrug*

Maybe I'll just stick to playing Rockband II for a while.

3rd Race at The Honeymoon Is Over Downs

For anyone who's been in a long relationship that started strong and then struggled, this is just fucking hilarious. :)

News 4 U

First, naughty Ms. Britni sent me a link to a smoking blog "le smoking image" that I hadn't seen before. (Thanks!) I figured I'd share a few links myself, since I'm the fetishist!

Unfortunately, most blogs that are just pictures tend to die off sooner rather than later, as the author runs out of content - or if they don't, they realize that the should be getting compensated for all the work even if only through ads on a web site. So, here are some of the best smoking fetish blogs that I've found - some are starting to fade... but for anyone new to them, I'm sure there's plenty to see.

http://smoking-celebrities.blogspot.com/
http://nicotinedream.blogspot.com/
http://smokingsweeties.blogspot.com/
http://classicsmoking.blogspot.com/


Oh and something unrelated... I forgot to post this on Halloween. This was the 10 year anniversary of Phish playing Pink Floyd's - "Dark Side of the Moon" in concert (they always play another band on Halloween.) And as someone who considers himself a HUGE Floyd fan, I promise you, it's worth a download. Here it is as a zip file as an MP3 format ~ 36MB - http://sharebee.com/a9f69d14

Cherry Poppin' Fun

A few months ago someone whom I've had as a "vanilla friend" for a little over a year, came out as a perv to another mutual friend of ours. Our mutual friend is very open about his lifestyle, and that immediately opened up the loop to me. As some of you who've read my blog, privacy is important for me. So opening up to folks who I already know in a vanilla context is sometimes tricky.

So, while I want to be supportive of them, and I know that I have quite a bit of knowledge and personal experience to offer (boy was I reminded of that) - I also don't want to be outted by association. So how it all plays out can be a bit tricky.

Though over the years I've become much less concerned about getting outted - mostly as I've grown more comfortable with myself and the focus of my desire for privacy has changed (from protecting my ego to protecting the privacy of my loved ones) - privacy is still important. I can remember days when it was more than important, it was just critical. I remember opening up to a young woman who was all heart broken at a party one time. Her boyfriend had dumped her, and she was feeling unattractive and it was one of those late night babble until 4 AM things, and at some point I had mentioned something about my smoking fetish - and specifically about how I thought the way she smoked her Virginia Slims was particularly sexy. Now, I sincerely thought I was just being a good friend, and a bit flirty - all to just make her feel a little better.

Well, next thing I know, the every time I would see her out, she would bring up her smoking - even if there was a group of people around. It was almost as if she could not have been more awkward and call more attention to it. I have to admit, I was actually a little excited - but more mortified. In the end, I don't think anyone else noticed it - no one made it any big deal. I was still very surprised and hurt.

Years later, I found out that several of the women in our group of friends had either figured it out already, or pieced together with each other that I had a fetish for both smoking and lipstick. One woman told me that she was specifically instructed to wear lots of lipstick and smoke if she wanted to seduce me. Not that being outed like that is a bad thing.

Hrm, well I'm way off my intended topic... Anyway... I guess it is easier to have a formula for seduction than not, right? I mean if you can just set the dial and flip the switch and get results, is that a bad thing? So, anyway, back to my friend. The thing that was tricky for him was that his g/f - although she was considered "as big a perv as anyone" was totally uncomfortable with some of the things he was suggesting, and their relationship suffered. On again, off again. Up and down. It was like a week to week thing.

And then they came to a place of understanding. And a week ago they broke their cherries and went to the Fetish Factory Halloween party. My fiancee and I were going to go, but I was just too sick with a head cold. I did help him with some suggestions about what to wear and what not, and they had an absolute blast.

This Saturday, the four of us went out to the "Halloween Hangover" party. And it is clear that they've found home. If they accept it or not over the longer haul, well that's something that only time can tell. But they're both quite attractive, friendly and personable, and well - they were just having a blast. Their enthusiasm for the scene, and each other really rubbed off on us. It's funny, I don't consider myself all that jaded, but as I was explaining things to them at the party it really occurred to me just how much I know about so many different things.

So much knowledge to the point where it's not even needed either. Like the fact that I don't have a latex fetish, but I know who made that movie they are showing in the corner, and I'm telling them the best web site to get this or that.

As much fun as it all was, it is kinda weird. See, they're still vanilla friends ya know? And he's wearing a skirt of mine and she's strutting around our apartment wearing a strapon. And then she's stroking it and talking about how she bought it when she was single, and wore it around her house for hours, and jerked it constantly... and I immediately tell them that they really should look into getting a feeldoe - and she's curious, and I explain how it works. Then I start to wonder if he's looking at me, knowing that I'm getting it up the butt from my girl, and I know he's getting it up the butt, and I'm kinda recommending how she gives it to him, and then I'm feeling weird - and well it's not like it's a big deal, but can I look at him quite the same way? Or does it not even matter? And I sure hope they don't mention it the next time a whole group of us go out mini-golfing!

Because *THAT* would be weird! :)

PS. If both of the ladies wish to continue the social smoking they did at the fetish party in vanilla settings, I am totally fine with that.

Finding Someone

One of the ongoing topics that I get e-mailed about and definitely have read plenty about is "how to meet someone" who's into this. And 95% of the time the person asking is a male sub seeking a female dom. Though I'm sure the circles that I frequent heavily bias that.

In general, meeting someone IRL (in real life) and not just in CyberSpace*, isn't easy for most people. Kinksters are definitely a very small percentage of the population, and there are many more men than women - especially if you are not a male top seeking a female sub.

So, for starters it's easier in larger population areas like cities. Some cities are more friendly to it than others - here in the US, the places where its easiest are probably New York and San Fran. Though there are active scenes in most good sized US cities: Boston, Phily, Miami/Ft. Laud (where I am), LA & Atlanta.

From there, you can either go to a fetish party, like the Fetish Factory - (Halloween one 2006 pic.) Although often people at the large fetish parties are just into the fashion, or just into swinging. Some more serious scene folks call the fetish factory version of S&M as "Stand & Model". So, if you are more serious about your kinks, seek out munches. Munches are informal meetings, usually held at restaurants. People dress very vanilla, and privacy is highly important. Basically it's just an informal get together. Imagine a book of the month club gathering at your local family restaurant... although the book is going to be by the greenery press folks, and not some traditional publishing company.

From there, just be sure to stick around the scene for a while. Everyone doesn't just show up at every munch waiting for *YOU* to make it there and whisk them away to the world of happily ever after. Kinky or not, we are real people with real lives, feelings, relationships, etc. It's not like pulling up to a drive thru and ordering a small with fries. Get out of yourself and get involved - participate, learn, share. Contact the NCSF and volunteer. I'm sure that sooner or later if you are nice and interested in contributing to the scene (and not just getting your own itch scratched) then I'm sure you'll find someone to play with.

Just FYI, I have heard that Ms. Sasha Grey is already spoken for. Though technically she's not a life styler, since she's pro, ya know... corporate sponsorships and such.

CyberSpace Hookups

Just to be totally clear - I don't think that meeting in cyberspace is a bad way to go about it either. And though there are a great many people who limit their playing to the cyber realm, there are those who just use it to meet people IRL. There's nothing wrong with just cyber'ing either - especially when the players are mature enough to understand that experiences in cyber play do translate as an equal understanding for experiences of face to face "IRL" play.

There are some great sites out there for meeting people in cyber space, and there are many benefits to it. You can be very specific about your interests, and that makes searching for a compatible partner much easier - since you don't have to be within driving distance to chat, the world is your oyster for friends. Some sites available are: alt-loving.com, fetlife.com, alt.com & bondage.com.

Alt loving & fetlife are newer, and free. Alt & bondage are older and I believe charge you to make a listing. Please keep in mind that there are people on those sites who might not be what they say they are. I've heard stories of lifestylers being taken by con folks on alt or bondage who say "pay for my plane ticket to fly me to you" kind of things. And Nigerian princes, etc. Just be wary of that fact. The cute little Japanese school girl might actually be some total perv weirdo guy with a hairy back who's from Connecticut!!! :P

Now things can get back to... normal?

Now things can get back to... normal? But what really is normal? For starters, I did a search for "normal" in google images and found the first result was a "normal hymen illustration" - WTF?

So, really... what is normal? If you look at a few different cultures in the world, you get some wildly different ideas:

In India, here's a story about two brothers who are married to the same woman: CNN story link.

In Japan, there is a game show about dressing and making up middle & high school boys to look like women, and then voting on who is the most passable. And that's not all, check out this you tube clip.
So... do you really think that your interests, kinks, fetishes are all that weird? Maybe they're just a bit more normal than usual ;)

I think I am looking forward to Wednesday

I made a decision when I started this blog that I would continue to do my best not to stray outside the fun topics of my sexuality and my observations regarding the alternative sexuality scene in general.

However as the US elections play such a huge roll in everything that's going on, and the last couple of elections have been far more divisive than I ever could've imagined (united we stand???) all I can say is that I hope there is some peace for us all on Wednesday. And please, get out and vote. I am ashamed to admit that I didn't vote in 2000 (out of pure laziness) - as I couldn't have imagined things going the way that they did... and if myself and some 2,600 others like me had voted here in Florida - well, things might've turned out very differently.

That's the end of the lecture, get out and vote!

My prediction: Ditka 407, Obama 104, McCain 27

So cold it's hot

Here's a sassy little video of a Mistress who's slave can't get into his chastity belt because the poor fellow has a hard on. The solution, well icing it down for several minutes.

How deliciously cruel. My brain battles between being grateful I'm not him, and jealous at the same time ;)