Happy Halloween!

Don't go saying all the good costumes are taken too - just think a little bit creatively, and make a statement :)

It's in the way that you use it

It's in the way that you use it... language that is.

I was reminded of this twice today. First on a fetish forum where someone posted pictures of a young actress in some of the latest fashion craze - skin tight black leggings. And another poster said "She's nice from the waist down" - which at it's best, is a back-handed compliment. Now, I know that we're all entitled to our opinion, and it's fine if someone doesn't think she's the prettiest woman on the Earth, or maybe has the nicest chest... but would it have been wrong to say "She's got great legs!" Would it have been any less true? Any less accurate? It certainly would not have been a back-handed compliment. Why someone has to insult another person, celeb or otherwise for absolutely no reason, well... it's beyond my understanding.

Along some what similar lines, things have gotten a lot spicier at the Hang (a forum that I usually spend most of my forum time on). In the last couple of months since the implosion of the NY pro dom scene, things have been getting progressively sadder there. After the last arrests, the majority of the Mistresses from the NY area left. A few announced they were leaving it as a profession, but stuck around as a lifestyle, but generally there was a pretty large scale exodus. A few new and some old members popped up to fill the void, but what seemed to happen is that only a handful of posters, who are very regular there (some of us are nearing 10,000 posts...) seem to dominate the discussion. And folks are butting heads. I'm definitely butting heads. And that's not like me.
Right around the time of the implosion, the admin of the forum banned political discussions. Normally I just ignored those threads, but they were so pervasive, and the venom was spilling out of the threads into the rest of the forum. So I posted about how that wasn't the focus of the forums, and I hoped only to reign it in a bit, so that instead of 80% of the discussions being about politics, reduce it to 50% or 25% - so that other topics could at least be found. But that didn't happen, and the admin shut it all down. And frankly I screwed up and gloated a bit about it. I think I already had raised the ire of the folks who were the political mud-slingers (and that seemed to be all that the political threads were) - since I was so public about my frustration with the threads, and then after the admin banned it... well, I got some angry PMs and some angry messages.

I would've hoped it'd boil over after a bit, but the political mudslingers had no home now, and instead were just running around the board and needlessly attacking just about anyone who didn't agree with their opinions. In all there are only 4 of them, but they obviously have a lot of free time, and post pretty much around the clock. Which is pretty amazing, and well... a bit sad. I mean, I'm online a ton, and I work online, and I work for myself, and even I don't have that much time for babbling.

So, I called them out as trolls, because that's how they were acting. And wow, I must've really gotten under the skin of two of them. So much so, that they are inclined to follow me around and post after me in just about any thread (though I don't bother to read or reply to them.) It's really rather remarkable (and more than just a little sad) to think that grown men will act like that. It's kinda like the creepy groupie on Flight of the Conchords, but different... a bit more like having my personal Mack and Charlie from Always Sunny in Philadelphia - which is the funniest thing on TV right now. On the downside, all my Charlie and Mack seem to talk about who can take a bigger poop.

I guess it is all just a day in the life kind of entertaining. I think my favorite moment this week was the guy who posted and got all high and mighty and decided to start lecturing kinksters by saying "You think your a respected Dominant?" Of course, it should say you're, since it is a contraction of you are and not a possessive for of your - as in, your crappy attitude. Generally though I hate the grammar zealots, but if you are going to lecture folks, at least check the subject line. Oh, and no need to lecture me about my abuse & misuse of the ellipsis... I've gotten comfortable with it :P

Random Hotnesses

Unfortunately, I'm too busy for much else...

Sarah Douglas, the HoH specializing uber hot villainess from Superman 2. For those of you who might have a women in boots kicking guys fetish: rapidshare video link

Next... as some of you might already know, I define "T&D = Tease & Denial" differently from what many guys call it. I call what the majority thinks of as T&D to be tease and delay. Because if you only have to wait a few more minutes, is it really fair to call it denial? I think it actually discredits some of the sacrifices of real hard core lifestyle chastity guys. You know, the ones getting prostate milked instead of actually being allowed to orgasm? The ones you always *fap* off to the idea of "that's so hot, I wish I had a Mistress that strict" - but in reality you know you would never never do it? Ok, maybe that's just me then.

At least one sassy dominant lady at the English Mansion website agrees with me. Sharebee video - file size: 30.55 MB

Oh, and there is a 4 Row Sxy Sadist chastity ring now - you know... the "Spirit of the KTB lives on" blog entry at the end of last month... it's available from Extreme Restraints.

Lastly, Proud2Serve has listed his remaining chastity device - the meaner SxySadist ring at fetishauctioneer.com - bids start at $10

Wassup 2008

True.

Ow! That hurts to just watch!!!

This is one of the most fascinating FemDom movie shorts that I have ever seen. It looks totally sincere to me, and well... Wow! Wild... just wild. It's like something out of Sci-Fi FemDom.

In this video, a group of attractive and relatively normally dressed young women - most wearing skirts and high heeled boots (nothing super kinky/fetishy) all gather around another young woman wearing a very smart looking outfit. The speaker calmly talks as the group comes up and fills up the room.

The centerpiece of the room is a man, firmly bound to a pair of metal bars, totally naked except for a pink collar. Off to the side, a gas torch burns, heating a branding iron.

The leader shows the branding iron's symbol to the women, who giggle (as Japanese women seem to do when excited) and then without further ado, she very matter-of-factly brands him. And he screams VERY loudly.

I guess he screams appropriately for bring branded. Meanwhile the women nervously shift and titter about. After she removes the iron, they all gather around, and point and giggle admiring the marking while the slave sobs. Then the Dominatrix moves his butt cheek around so that all of the other women can see the resulting scar. Then the respectfully applaud the moment. He is simply treated as a peace of meat. Not a single woman consoles him in any manner at all, he's just there for their education, or edification, or plain entertainment.

I mean - holy crap!!! It's all done so nonchalantly. The women are all so cute, and young, and normal looking and wow... just stunning. The whole delivery of this scene, it's just totally surreal.And FWIW, I personally HATE fire play. I hate heat in general. I don't even like the idea of hot potato! I have no brands - I never ever once thought it was sexy... before seeing this, that is. Wow. I wonder if it was a lifestyle thing, or what.

Download it yourself from sharebee - Branding.flv - 14.22 MB

You may need an .flv player (.flv = flash video) to play the video clip - I use "FLV player 1.3.3" - it's free.

Photo Retouch IV - Porchia Waston

I figured I'd show off a little something I threw together. Someone posted a picture of this cutie - Portia Watson.

Portia evidently is a "Page 3 Girl" which is the girl whom the British tabloid rags put up sexy and/or topless pictures of. I guess that keeps the Brits warm at night or at least sells newspapers ;)

She definitely looked cute all "caught with a ciggie" (or a "fag" as the brits say), but the picture that was posted was afflicted by the classic red-eye.

So I fixed it. Red-eye is pretty easy to undo. But then it occurred to me that she might not have brown eyes. And she doesn't. She's got some really stunning pale blue eyes. And getting her eyes into the picture - and keeping it realistic, was trickier photoshop work.

And as beautiful as her eyes are, I'm a brown/black eye fan myself. Something about brown eyes that implies an intelligence and an intensity to me. So... what do you think? Blue eyes or brown?

More Steam Punk

It isn't always about 'teh sexah' here...

Steam Punk Anime: "The Last Exile"

"In this romantic sky world based on stylized Victorian fashion and society, two countries, Anatoray and Disith are engaged in a long and bloody war under the supervision of the mysterious Guild." - Wiki link

One reviewer, and I haven't watched it all so I can't argue, but it does seem likely (though I see this with much anime) - "It is as devoid of depth as it is beautiful. Too much that the characters know is not explained and it makes it beautiful to see, but it lacks substance."

Still not sold? Here's fanvid. Anyway, if you want something steam punk that you can put your hands on, buy or rent the DVD (netflix carries it).

The best FanSite I found: link
The official site: link

Want more? Hhere are two collections of links and reviews of all things steampunkish.
coilhouse.net
steamfashion livejournal

Weird Mood Today

All I can think of is this song, which I saw last night on a GTA IV ad. But it fits today pretty well - direct link

How To: Walking in Heels

With the sudden spike of women wearing spikes, we're seeing more and more articles and videos about how to walk in high heels. Some are overly complicated and some too technical. I think balanced and personal is probably the most helpful approach. Whatever you do, remember that you have to give it time. If you haven't been practicing and learning to wear heels for years, chances are that it's going to be much tougher to adjust to it - and it is also going to be tougher on your feet.

My own personal opinion on what's the best suggestion for getting good at wearing heels is really rather simple - practice. Be sure to get shoes that fit you well, wear them around the house so they wear in to your foot, and as you do a bit of walking here and there you'll get used to them. The lower and wider the heel the easier it will be to balance. Be sure also to stretch your ankles and calves before you put the heels on. And give yourself time. Practice, practice, practice. Men have wider feet than women, so although pointy toes might look really hot, they're going to be tougher for men to wear - and most women think they're pretty tough to start. So you might want to really give it all a few phases to get used to.

I suggest you get a pair of comfy mid heels, wear them around the house when you can sit a bit. Take the shoes off for 10 minutes here and there to stretch your feet and flex your ankles. And then, when you have it down, get out to your local fetish party! But be careful, high heels can be dangerous!

Of course there are also more articles about help for high heel foot pain too, although I suspect most Dominatrixes will agree that a foot fetishist to rub your tooties is the best medicine. Even if the Dominatrixes don't agree, I'm sure the foot fetishists would ;)

For more information about the care and handling of your very own foot fetishist, I recommend visiting balkanbratdom.com

Mainstream Fetish - High Heels

Two blog readers have submitted the same article for inclusion here, so obviously I need to spread the word. ;)

The fact is, high heels are back. Really high heels. Not some 2" so-called high heels, but stuff described as "almost cartoony" - five and even six inch spiked heels. Granted, the really high ones usually have a platform on the front, so the arch isn't quite that dramatic, but even I will admit, you get up to 4" differential and it's a real challenge. And 6" with a 2" platform is still a 4" differential. Oh it's do-able... but you fetishists better appreciate the effort!
Even the WSJ is reporting on it - "Women Fall Head Over Heels for Shoe Makers' Arch Designs Six-Inch Spikes Are Painfully Hot Trend; A Balancing Act That Makes Models Cry"

And to think that when the "contemporary stiletto was invented in the 1950s... for Marilyn Monroe in alligator skin... with heels no higher than about 3 inches." Oh how high we've come ;)

This latest fad is being credited in part to Gwyneth Paltrow's comeback. Both the LA Times and the NY Daily News had articles with pictures of Gwyneth (and blaming or crediting her for igniting a craze) by wearing out 5" and 6" heels both as Pepper Potts her character in the movie, Iron Man - and to all of the premieres too. The UK Daily Mail reported that she even wore 7" platforms by little-know designer Pacini. Yowza! And then reports that "The Gwyneth Effect" had caused a full 35% increase in super high heel sales in the UK. One thing for sure, some of her shoes were pretty darn fetishy. Either way, it's clear that extremely high stiletto heels, are all the rage - WOOT!

It used to be that really high heels were something that only shorter women would wear. I'm told that was in large part so that they weren't taller than the male peers. And as I am 5'10" even at a fancy dinners or events, I was almost always as tall as all of the women. At least 95% of them. Yet, this past labor day, when I was at a convention banquet the change was staring me right in the face. I think that I was about eye to eye with half the women (within 1 or 2" taller or short) but of the other half - as many were taller than I was, as were shorter. I would estimate that 75% of the women were wearing heels 3" or higher, and probably 50% of them were in 4" or higher. And that's just all kinds of hot IMO.

The latest thing that's come out of it all are what I'm calling "un-heels" - and though most fetishists seemed to first notice the concept last month when Victoria Beckham wore a pair of latex leggings with shoe platforms glued to the front of them - however the first pair of "unheels" that I ever saw were actually on Gwyneth, shown above. I also have to admit, I'm not sure I like them. I kinda find the heel itself fascinating. There's an interesting dichotomy to really high heels. Yes, they are tougher to walk in, that makes them something in the realm of women. They're undoubtedly sexy, the whole sway of heels and the longer leg and the perch of the behind. They arch the foot in a position that is similar to what happens during orgasm.

What's more, high heels are dangerous. Not the twist the ankle of the wearer... (yah I know those things happen) but if they step on you. Ouch! That does hurt. I remember a woman who accidentally stepped on my big toe while wearing high heels and instantly I had a dead toe nail. Take a careful look at the wood or even marble floors at a place where women wear heels - like a high end office building, or restaurant. The floor is pocked up from the impact of the high heels. They're frickin' weapons. Weapons of female dominance. Well they can be at least... I guess not always. Since they are tough to run in, it would take a whole group of women to corner and trap me if they are wearing high heels. With that said, can anyone point me to such a group of women, please?

Tomorrow, how to walk in heels - for boys or girls ;)

What about BDSM & Fetishism?

I wonder how this kind of research would come out if it were specifically applied to BDSM & Fetishism.

CNN has some results about research into the neuroscience of sex addiction by the Mayo Clinic. What's particularly interesting is that it's focusing on how the chemical reactions result from sexual functioning, specifically how dopamine and serotonin might contribute to sex addiction. And as I'm sure as many of you already know, dopamine gets released into the brain during intense physical play. Subspace is more than just an emotional state of mind.

The study shows that: "these two chemicals are lower in the brains of children who have suffered abuse, which may explain why some of them use their own bodies -- or, in other cases, food -- to increase dopamine and serotonin levels.

A lot of teenagers develop their sexuality with pornography, and then find that relational sex isn't as satisfying, Weiss said. Porn gives them a "very strong chemical hit," and alters ways of thinking about sex, somewhat like the classic "ring the bell, feed the dog" stimulus-response mechanism. Addicts thus learn to become sexually attached to objects, and have trouble getting the same kind of satisfaction from sex in a relationship, he said."

Anyways, I thought it was all at least a bit interesting...

OT: Star Trek - Crisis

This was too funny not to pass along

A potpourri of stuffs

Random Hotnesses:
Shania Twain in a sassy catsuit or putting on some sexy boots or in latex...


The next chewy noshible are the sexy pictures of fashion photographer Borissov. In addition to taking some really cool pictures of some really beautiful women, Borissov clearly has an eye for the style of smoking that gets my heart thumping. Here's his official Site & his blog. And personally, I just love black and white for smoking shots. The way it brings out the contrast of the cigarette and the smoke, plus it sure makes dark lipstick extra dramatic.

Second, some general help for pervs. I often see people who say "I would love to share this picture, but I don't have a place to host it", or "can you host my avatar for me" kind of thing. So, here's some good & free file hosting sites:

Some free images hosts are:
fapomatic.com
imageshack.us

Just select your images and upload them and each site gives you the basic links you need to share it with others.

Free hosts for larger files: (like videos or to share a large group of images if you use winzip or winrar to a group into one file)
sharebee.com - the best since it actually rehosts them at 4 places
axifile.com
megaupload.com
megarotic.com
rapidshare.com

Now, all of these sites (kinda like YouTube) will have to remove what you upload if the copyright belongs to someone else, but most of the time the traffic isn't significant enough to call attention.However, if you really want to share lots of stuff, then you are best off getting your own web host. Godaddy.com & Bluehost.com actually seem to be a good places to do that - as long as you don't over do it and call attention to your adult content.

Movies you don't know about

First off - a Vampire Movie that deserves some more attention, the 1995 film, The Addiction.

Annabella Sciorra is the lead, with significant roles by Christopher Walken & Lili Taylor. I don't want to ruin it for you, but Walken's does a great job in a role that I like think that I embody in my own life, which biased my opinion I'm sure.

Annabella smokes with the kind of abandon that you can when you are a vampire and know that smoking won't kill you. Above all that, it's an interesting film in it's own right, and I think HBO's series "True Blood" steals a bit of it's deeper concepts from it. Personally, when it comes to sexy vampire films, The Addiction is tied at the top with 1983's The Hunger.

The next movie you don't know about yet is Miranda, 2002. Be sure to get the right version, there are a few other movies of the same name out there. This one is starring Christina Ricci as a woman who is a con woman who falls somewhere between artsy girlfriend and dominatrix - who seems to favor wearing a Cheongsam for dramatic affect - and I'll tell ya, I'm affected dramatically!

All in all, there are:
2 scenes of foot worship, including kissing/sucking on toes
1 fantasy cuckolding scene
3 scenes of very D/s style verbal humiliation
And innumerable scenes of very fetishized smoking. I personally find Christina's smoking manner to be a little bit stiff, even though her smoking is clearly a point of major emphasis in the film.

Next is the 2006 straight to video release - Submission, which I'd never heard of it until recently. It stars Simmone Mackinnon as a dominatrix, has ole Corbin Bernsen in it, and got pretty decent reviews on imdb. Though, the 3 reviews on Amazon seem to be actually be about a totally different film. *shrug*

Anyways, I've seen this smoking video clip from it, and I want to see more, even though the it sure looks like straight to video quality movie acting, dialog & plot. See, the thing is, Ms. Simmone co-produced it, she plays a Domme, and clearly knows how to smoke seductively (often with a cigarette holder for your sub-genre fetishists. Since she co-produced it obviously she wanted to make this project, and she's playing a smoking domme and that folks, is damned sexy!
Anyone know where I can find it for rent? Netflix & Blockbuster don't carry it, but Amazon has it, but I'm not quick to spend $20 on a DVD.

And lastly, Sex and Death 101. This is Winona Ryder's 2007 movie - which I have mentioned twice before in this blog. Sadly, it wasn't worth the wait. Winona's airtime totals about 10 minutes, and it is all so poorly filmed that I'm not surprised it was a straight to video release. I guess my long standing fantasy of a worthy movie with Noni reprising the role from this photo (at left) which was in her 1996 calendar, and turning it into an insanely smoking hot fem fatale film role will have to stay a fantasy a bit longer.

SteamPunk - definition

According to the Urban Dictionary, Steam Punk is defined as "A subgenre of speculative fiction, usually set in an anachronistic Victorian or quasi- Victorian alternate history setting."

Sometimes it's called Neo-Victorian too. Either way, I think it's damned cool.

The first time I realized I was being introduced to something really new, was when a fellow computer geek sent me the picture here at the top. While it didn't look super function as a real day to day computer, it sure looked slick and it did look functional enough. And compared to the super future look of Mac computers, or the overly industrial look of PCs, I thought it was an awesome alternative. Even if there never was such a thing, I just loved the idea of creating an antique looking PC - wow.

So I surfed around and mined a bit more information - seeking to understand who would invest the time and energy to do something like that. And that's when I really started to learn more.

While many people still haven't heard of Steampunk, it has actually been around for a while. And though the first time I realized I was seeing something different might've been that computer, the forgettable 1999 film, Wild Wild West was actually my first intro. How someone could make a movie with lots of beautiful tightly corsetted women, especially stunning Salma Hayek (in an reputed 18" corset!!!) and make it so bad that it is forgettable, it is just unfathomable... bordering on criminal. But they did just that. And they also introduced a Steampunk sub-genre style of a wild west flare, is that a sub-sub-genre?

Just a side note, I think believe that Salma was actually corsetted as small as 18" for some of the scenes - as opposed to other actresses who just make absurd claims about it for attention. Salma isn't new to corsetting for a role, in fact, I think she is probably more accustomed to it and naturally built for a corset then almost any other actress. Salma is very petite, and has an extremely tiny natural waist. Though in all fairness, I do think that in most of the scenes her waist is closer to 20 or 21 inches. I also remember hearing about how Salma chose to wear a 20" corset to the movie's premiere.

Since there is a significant Victorian flavor to Steampunk fashions, corsetry is a consistent component. And that is probably a big part of what kept my attention. Perhaps the biggest mainstream sample of the style was featured in the 2004 movie, Van Helsing. Obviously anything and everything from H.G. Wells' had also played a huge part in defining this genre.

Fortunately, Steampunk does seem to be growing in acceptance and acknowledgement. On May 8th of 2008, the New York Times had an article about it their Fashion & Style section - alternate link. I don't think that things can get more legit then the NYT ;)

Either way, with a movement as new as this, with as many wild ways to define it. To interpret things (and re-interpret things too) it's going to be fun to see where it goes. Especially if the evolution of the genre encourages fashion designs which keep this generation in the practice of corsetting, then it's definitely got my full support :D

FemDom Music

It's time for another entry on FemDom Music, this time courtesy of Ms. Chrissy Hynde & the Pretenders. The second song on their second album, "Bad Boy's Get Spanked"

You’re not supposed to do that
You know you’re not allowed to
But you seem to get some kind of kick
Out of doing what you’re not allowed to
You deliberately defy the rules
’cause the law’s upheld by fools
Shit on that
Bad boys get spanked

You can look but don’t touch
But no you can’t resist
Don’t you ever think about the consequence
Guys like you never do
That’s the kind of stuff boys are made out of
That’s the kind of stuff girls are made out of
Bad boys get spanked
Bad boys get spanked

While searching for hot pictures of Ms. Hynde, I found a woman's blog with a remark about a pair of boots - "I had a Chrissie Hynde moment". It struck me as funny since I have black boots that are almost identical. The woman in the blog entry gripes about how high they are, and yet... they're my "around the house" heels because they're so low - 3" I think...

And while I didn't find an official video for for the song, you can see them perform it in concert.

Two raids in the UK

It seems like busting down dungeon doors has spread over the pond.

The first bust was in a nice neighborhood at a "Suburban Dungeon" where they're investigating such things as "fire hazards being looked into were claims of "waxplay" in which burning candles are dripped onto a client." I wonder if they're going to start making people who buy candles to show their ID and sign a waiver that they aren't going to use them for any nefarious kinky purposes. *rolls eyes*

The second raid was at a "school house" location - which they're claiming was a brothel - Article 1 and Article 2. I must say, I think the idea of making that kind of setting for a brothel seems not only ineffective, but pretty darned absurd.

But I guess that doesn't matter all that much.

I don't want to turn this forum into "rights for pervs" rants, but this stuff sure seems to be happening more and more often. If you are a Yank like me, and you don't know what's up, read please remember to support the NCSF.