How's that for ya? There's a few ways to go about blogging. There's the journal style - which tends to oscillate between a "News of my day to day" or the deeper "Behind the scenes" view into your emotional psyche. Though I didn't envision my blog to be that way. Frankly I don't think my day to day is all that exciting, and I'm far too reserved about sharing the nooks and crannies of my brain to the world. Perhaps its that I don't want to show my own "dark passenger".
The other kind of blog seems to be a more of an educational variety. But who the hell am I to be all "here's what you need to do" - ya know? Sure, they call me a chastity expert on one board, but I hardly wear the belt for any real duration compared to other guys out there. I'd say that over the last few years I've worn it for 5% of my life - so while I might know a lot about it, I have not actually experienced a lot.I put a good bit of time into corsetting and I did really lace myself down for quite a while, but I've spent a lot more time in my belt than I have in a corset over the last few years. Heck, I can't even fit into all my corsets anymore. *gasp* I thought it was 15lbs that I put on when I quit smoking, but it's not - I'm still lighter than I was in some of the earliest corset pictures. It's that I shortened the corset strings on the biggest corset's laces (because they used to absurdly lap around my waist 4 times...) - plus the fact that I'm so out of practice that my body is no longer used to the shaping at all!
Meh!
Anyways... that's where I'm at. Sometimes the whole Bloggin' thing is just hard. I'd wager that 90% of the blogs I've visited have died off, a post or two a month at most - or are stone dead within a few months after starting, if they even make it that long.
On the other side, I don't want to just be an attention whore about it either. I refused to sell out my way of looking at the world to join the Sugasm thing. And I don't want to just post up picture after picture of "please wank here" material - though I think we can all agree that a bit of really sexy hot OMG look at her art is required. I also refuse to be a chronic malcontent or the mad ranter. None of those are things that I wanted it to be about either. Heck, it isn't about traffic, or readers, or even really responses - though I do really appreciate the feedback when I get it - and strangely I get as many e-mails comments as I do on the blog. When I get really down to it, I'm not sure what I wanted it to be about. I do know that a part of the goal was to stop spending so much time on BDSM boards, and it has helped with that. But I do miss my friends. I had expected that a few friends who's blogs I read regularly would stop in here and read my board, even if just occasionally. And with one real exception, they haven't. And I'm not sure why... but it is what it is. Either way, not spending time on the boards is getting easier. I seem to have developed a pair of cyber stalkers on one board, and a very large # of folks have left that site in the last few months for a myriad of reasons. Partly because of a change in the scene in NY, but mostly because the place has gotten so hostile. It's sad, but I've built up enough friends and I spend enough time chit chatting as it is already...*shrug*
Maybe I'll just stick to playing Rockband II for a while.
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Blogging is hard! Or at least dedicating time to it is. I honestly don't know how you manage to do it so consistently. Kudos!
I am, without meaning to be so, an intermittent blogger. There are periods where I can't get anything posted to save my life (let alone read anyone else's) and they are separated my short mega-blasts of material... non-wank material, of course! The closest thing to an accomplishment lately was getting tangentqueen.com and linking it to the Flickr page. Woohoo.
Not too sure what my goal of blogging is, either. It's obviously not to get clients, otherwise there would be many fewer pictures of my cats eating cheese doodles. It's not to share my innermost thoughts, because because the entire world doesn't really need that information. Hmmm.
-Regan
Uh... not that there's anything wrong with your wank material. I mean, I get a bit irritable if you don't put up at least one decent pic a week.
Personally, I'm enjoying the attention whore style of blogging. Actually, the truth is that I have no freakin' idea what I'm doing. I throw out news clippings, some personal stuff, some outrageous fiction, and a little bit about chastity devices - and yet people still continue to read it every day.
Crazy, huh?
I've been enjoying your own eclectic style - the blogs that focus on one subject get boring and - I think - tend to burn out after a while. Just keep on doing what you're doing.
Thanks Ms. Regan for the note, and BTW, you are "real exception" that I mentioned - in case you didn't already guess that :) But that's part of why you are 5 stars!
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Thanks Tom. And I definitely didn't mean to say that there is anything wrong with being a purely wankable blog, nor is there anything wrong with attention whoring. I just don't want that to be the focus of my blog, whatever floats your boat or motivates your keyboard for your own blog is all guud IMO.
And if I'm just eclectic perv, I definitely can live with that.
Ultimately it's all definitely a bit crazy as to who reads it and how much. I mean, my readership has tripled in the last few months and I haven't the slightest idea why. Though I do know that the blog entry that gets the most linkage is the only one I wrote about enemas - and how I find them disappointing... how weird is that???
Hey Aarkey,
Its cool mate ! if I may use that word.
Firstly your "blog" is the first I log on to, because I can rely on a regular post.
Your topics are varied, and the subject matter is mostly where Iam at.
Ok I spend 24/7 (mostly) in my Lori #7 but that changes from time to time.
I have thought about a personal blog,....mmmm maybe some day, however I dont think I have the same dedication that you have to your readers.
Your life is yours, I enjoy reading about it, so keep doing what you have been doing,...........its all good.
Regards Barney
Thanks for the reaffirmation Barney. It's appreciated :)
I'm particularly glad to see that ya'll like the fact that my blog flips channels so much. I guess that helps keep it interesting at least.
i read your blog!
cheers
mira :)
Not to give you like a swollen ego or anything but your blog contributed directly to the amazing positive changes that have occurred for me since March of this year when I first read you. I really like reading you. You inspire an open and decent sense of community.
This year has also been tough for me. At a particularly difficult time over the summer I was reading Anne Lamott's "Bird by Bird" which is a sort of how to on writing and life. She said writing happens organically from inside you and you get taken places by what wants to come out.
I view my own blogging efforts that way and I experience yours that way too. Whatever yer doin' I think it's great. So thanks for being so dedicated to the craft of writing.
Thanks Mira. Are you sure you aren't just looking for a nakee picture? :P
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Advochasty, wow. Well, I'm grateful to be able to have been a part of your journey. I'm flattered and humbled by your compliments, especially: "You inspire an open and decent sense of community." Because, I guess that's a part of the goal of the blog. If anything, it's tolerance and acceptance. And decency - even if it's indecent pictures, as long as they're decent ;)
"a part of the goal was to stop spending so much time on BDSM boards, and it has helped with that."
Well, if we can help you with that, then its like free therapy ;-)!
I am sure blogging is hard - shit, sometimes even posting replies is hard. I mean I am not trying to compete with others here, but their comments just seem to be more meaningful... (I am hoping that its because I post at 6am and not totally awake... yeah, I'm hoping that's it).
I read your blog because many of our opinions, views and interests overlap, except that you actually get to live them IRL, while I have to sneak around or read about them. :(
So, man, keep blogging! If you are ever at a loss for meaningful stuff to post, you can always go with something like this, or if you want even deeper, this. But, quite frankly, I'd be more than happy to see a couple of hotties and some "wank here" material... Mmm'kay..
Hi Aarkey:
I have been wrestling with a few of the same issues. I started my blog partly because I enjoyed reading yours if that helps any. I know what you mean about format and consistency. Mine centers around my D/s relationship with my wife and also hopes to offer advice to my fellow male subs who are trying to make D/s work in the context of a loving relationship. But just the other day I put up a post about an AC/DC concert I attended. What does that have to do with the theme of my blog? Ummmm... Nothing! I just felt like writing about it. So much for consistency of theme or sticking to a specific format.
I also see a problem with being too confessional. Some of the details I reveal about myself/my relationship are extremely personal. It's kind of difficult to write about my topic with out at least some of that detail but I wonder how appropriate it is especially considering I haven't obtained the approval of my S.O. for discussing those details on line. If you find my blog suddenly disappears you will now know why!
One thing is for sure, however. Blogging has helped me break the habit of going to that hostile website you were referring to. I was very addicted to the place and it just turned into a horribly negative experience for me. So that is certainly a big positive as far as I'm concerned!
So don’t worry about format or consistency or other trifles. You write well and you have lots of interesting topics to talk about and enlightening insights to share. If you keep blogging I will keep reading my friend!
Best
hmp
P.S. Please include more wank material!
OK: your comments keep me going sometimes, so don't go thinking they aren't all that and a bag of chips :)
And that first link creeps me out, think that maybe she's an alien or something?
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HMP: I'm very happy to have been inspirational, and I definitely think posting "whatever" is up to the plate for the day is a part of keeping it alive and real.
As to "The Hang" - it's definitely disappointing. But it's time. Max's utter neglect of it and the rampant trolls. It is sad to see it's demise. It was really unique because of it's open interaction between both sides of the paddle - without all the pomp and attitude that sometimes (usually) happens on lifestyle forums. But the only constant in life is change, right?
If she is an alien, then I am ready to be abducted!
Meanwhile, I don't know if you noticed a common thread in all "male" posts - more "wank material" please.
So, um, not to belabor the point, but, you know, even if you might not feel like posting, just go on and slap a bunch of hot pics for us to drool over... No complaints from here!
"Thanks Mira. Are you sure you aren't just looking for a nakee picture? :P "
Damn, caught out again!
cheers
mira
OK: you had better be happy about today's update... though I do think that I'm going to have to slap the adult tag warning on the blog.
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Mira: I think... no, scratch that... I know, that you like to get caught ;)
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